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In SM, the person who is the one "doing," is the top, as opposed to the bottom, who is being "done to." It's a noun and a verb, too, as in "She was topping me" or "I had a great time bottoming to her."

The terms top and bottom are value-free, unlike the terms dominant and submissive. People often want to distinguish between bottoming and submitting. I'm not so fussy, but there is a subtle difference.

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