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You are who I think you are

June 19th, 2002 · No Comments · Uncategorized

Matthew nails it explaining the intoxicating nature of online relationships:

And that’s what’s so incredible about the people you meet online — there’s so much you don’t know about them. You get to dream it all up. And somewhere, out there, there’s a real person to tie it all to, a vehicle for your fantasies. You get to let yourself think they’re actually real, even if it’s only for the moment.

Often times it’s not what we know about someone that makes them attractive, it’s what we don’t know. Reminds me of an article about visual perception I read. It seems the brain is wired to “fill in the blanks” in how it sees things. That’s why clothing can make us look better. What the eye cannot directly perceive, the brain fills in using an abstract ideal.

Seems to apply also to online communication, in a more complex way. Not that real relationships can’t grow from online ones, but online-only relationships tend to be somewhat incomplete.

You just can’t beat meat-space for human interaction.

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